It's like a four course meal

So it has been quite an eventfull weekend that has took me to the highest hights and the lowest lows. From skipping on clouds (in the most masculin way possible *picture rambo skipping on clouds.. then your on the right track*) to trying to find all the peices of my shattered heart in the gutter. (that one was my fault) but the weekend over all left me with one resounding message.

Dating a girl should be like a four course meal...
Ok so mabey that's a bit odd sounding but check this.

Course 1 : Sallad. your just excided to be at the resturand and dont really know what you should order. The sallad is just an easy way into the meal. Light and you might not finish it. In dating this would be the very beginning. Like when you first meet Her at school. You find a way to be in her group for a project. you exchange cell numbers and start to text her and you have friended her on face book.

Course 2 : Soup. Now thats a bit heavier. This one had more to do whith decision. you didnt just pick some superficial dressing. nope this part actually has some sustanance. Its enough to fill you up so take your time dont scarf it down. Much like the next step in dating. So you've been texting and your flirting in class a bit. your friends start to egg you on. so you decide to hang out ... out side of school. You start to hear her thoughts besides the txted LOLs. your getting to see her intrests and if you have anything in common. is she easy to get along with? is her laugh similar to nails on a chalk board? are you enjoying getting to know her? last chance before the meal. do you wanna mabey change your order? Cause the main course is the most important and it is a commitment.

Course 3 (the main course) : this is where you will spend a lot of time. this is why you came. to really enjoy the meal. Its the biggest of the 4 courses and the most satisfying it will leave you feeling full. Just like the next step of dating. Getting to know her. I mean really know her. There should be some real sustinance here. long deep conversations are the meat of it all and the sauce ( the best part ) is all the laughs. all the times she smiles at you and you feel like everything is just wonderful. You will find that you are left feeling complete. much fuller than before. so then comes desert.

Course 4 : the sweet stuff. lots of fluff. this is the part that leaves you walking away with a happy ending. After the other three courses it dosen't take much for you to satisfy your sweet tooth. You may not take a whole lot of it but its verry good. this is much like kissing. After you know the person inside out . and your sure that you should be with them. When you have grown together and have made the memories. then the kiss. but beware. so many people try to skip straight to desert. this was my greatest struggle. sure it tastes sweet. but it gets bittersweet fast!. if you skip right to the desert then you lose your appetite. you end up leaving and then soon feeling unsatisfied. you will feel like you wasted time and money on that meal ( the one that you neglected to enjoy for the "ight reasons").

Desert will come . some day. but for now im just gonna nibble on my salad . make some new friends and see if im ready for the soup a little later down the road. I'm sick and tired of jumping in head first for desert and feeling empty after two weeks of drama.

My prayer is that we will all start to take dating more seriously. That we will take it easy and make romantic decisions with intention to furfill Gods plan for us in marrage.

Genisis2:23The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man."

Really embrace the meal. you will find out if shes the one for you and if she is or not you will walk away feeling satisfied and full.